Happiness, the one emotion we strive to achieve. What will it take to make you truly happy? To feel content, to feel bliss?
What is happiness? This state of mind, this feeling tends to be synonymous with success – success with health, with relationships with work and finances. We associate happiness with situations and people. But why? Why do we give away the power to feel happy when this is a state of mind? A state of mind that is fully in our control.
The general consensus is that when everything is ok, I will be happy, at peace. But in reality that seldom happens. When we are at peace, when we are happy, then everything falls into place. To feel inner happiness, without this being attached to people or situations is the key. For me, this has been an area of great importance and development.
For me, the pursuit of inner happiness is the epitome of success. I am happy and content with my life and all the challenges I have faced. I have all I need and more. This state of mind has been achieved through adopting three specific practices: acceptance, awareness and gratitude. When we don’t accept a specific situation whether that is related to relationships, career, finances or health, we become stuck and stagnate in a swamp of negativity and helplessness. This lack of acceptance results in the creation of a negative narrative and it all begins with one negative thought which leads to another and another and before you know it you are tangled in a dark web of negativity. This conditioned behaviour of overthinking leads to a number of negative emotions from stress and worry to frustration and anger.
However, when you begin to accept a situation, there is no struggle as the brain succumbs to the notion of what is, allowing the healing process to accelerate. This then results in moving forward with a renewed mind set – where an alternative thinking pattern provides a more positive perspective.
As well as acceptance, be aware of your thoughts – observe them. When you are aware that your thoughts are taking on a negative form, shift this thought pattern. The most effective method to do this, is through practising gratitude. Focusing on and appreciating what you are grateful for in life begins to create harmony and bliss in your life. Think, say and most importantly, feel gratitude from your heart. It is when gratitude from the heart is achieved that you feel happiness emanating from within.
The practice of gratitude is very powerful – don’t underestimate the power of being thankful and appreciative. For me, this practice has created within me a glow of happiness like a warm, glowing fire on a cold night that provides warmth and light. The first words I utter as I awaken, are always those of gratitude: I am grateful for a good night’s sleep; I am grateful for a comfortable bed; I am grateful for my job which allows me to have these comforts. Like this, through the day, be thankful constantly for everything and see the glow of happiness expand in your life.